It is perhaps not by chance that I find myself embroiled in discussion concerning the face of feminism. While there are various ways to undertake change for the good of the community through the empowerment* of women, one that strongly takes center stage is the idea of equality. Please see my post “Circle” and resulting comments.
Feminism to me goes beyond equality into the realm of equity. Only because through equity do I see an “equal” and mutual respect for all the roles played by the different members in society. Through equality solely, I have no so far seen the respect for a “stay-home mom” as I have through equity which in my perception entails a respect for the role played by a “stay-home mom” that say, a CEO of an oil company might receive. Both roles are important in sustaining the economy and should be rewarded along similar lines. Notice that I have not said a “male” CEO rather, it should be taken that it is not the sex of the holder of the position but the structure that causes disempowerment of “stay at home moms.”
Therefore as per my earlier post “Circle” it is not the fact that I was being “bid on” as a woman, that would disempower me, rather it would be the structure under which that negotiation process and surrounding practices, was carried out. In my perception of the structure of bride price and the surrounding rituals, it serves a purpose and that being to hold a family together. There have been other negotiations that have torn families apart, however it is not the fact that the negotiation was over a woman that caused conflict. Rather it was the spirit (therefore structure) under which the negotiation was carried on.
Now to open up a can of worms so the cliche goes…what do you think about female circumcision/ FGM?
*a word that I am yet to fully decipher